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Disagree.  OP is the child of a 1%er, or rather a 0.5%er.  Presumably OP will receive a large inheritance from her parents, her quibble is that she thinks she deserves a larger one.  Excuse me if I can't sympathize with her. I'm the poster above who has no issues with my less financially secure SIL's family inheriting more than my family, and we're far poorer than the OP is.[/quote]

If you read the whole thread, it becomes clear that the house is the parents only asset, they got lucky with house appreciation and thats it. They are not 1%ers, and in reality that house is probably going to be lost to end of life care for one or both of them, unless they get so lucky as to die quickly and suddenly. But in the abstract, the OP has to deal with the emotional impact of basically being told that she is not as worthwhile as her sister, and her parents are telling her that NOW, upfront. It's a hard thing to cope with.

A friend who had success in life was told by his dad that he wouldn't be in the will because he didn't need anything. And then his dad turned around and tried to make him executor of the will! The reality is neither my friend or his siblings OR the grandkids *need* anything, but verbally trying to dole it out in varying amounts just opens old rivalries and hurts and does absolutely no good whatsoever. Make it even. If one child takes on the bulk of eldercare, that should be dealt with in the present time and not be left to estate settlement.

personally, i've been supporting my parents for 20 years; the house is titled to revert to me when they die so it wouldn't be part of the estate. I have no idea if my dads older daughters are in his will anymore, and didn't feel like making that conditional, I just took care of it with titling. certainly if there is any stuff they might want they can take it, but they absolutely don't get to inherit the house i have been paying the mortgage on for 20 years. [/quote]

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