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[quote=Anonymous]I'm in a situation where it's pretty clear that my parents will leave all of their assets to my sibling who has refused to work for many, many years. She quit every job she ever had in order to chase some relationship across the country, because a coworker was "snippy' to her, or because she didn't like the way the office smelled. Meanwhile, my parents pushed me HARD to earn advanced degrees and get out there in the job market. It's paid off for me, sure, but my family and I are definitely aren't swimming in money. We have financial pressures and tight budgets like millions of other people in this country. My sister and her family take thousands of dollars every month from my parents to keep up their standard of living, all the while she refuses to work and just hangs out brunching and sightseeing all day. My parents have made it clear that they will not help me if I were to ask for it in an emergency. They spoil her child both with visits, calls, college savings, and gifts, while ignoring mine. It's heartbreaking.

I no longer share any of my successes, personal, professional, or otherwise, with my family. It's only been used against me. We're in the market to buy a new home, and I no longer look for houses that can accommodate them as they need assistance in their old age. PPs insist that parents who give more money to one adult child over another are free to make that decision are absolutely right. But when the parents want to claim that they still love their children equally, that's where I get really skeptical. There's the old saying that actions speak louder than words. They've turned their back on my family both emotionally and financially, and I'm not falling for it anymore.

I hope OP is able to find some peace with all of this. Her parents probably won't change their minds, but she CAN take back some sense of control and dignity by focusing exclusively on the needs of her own family from here on out. Good luck, friend.[/quote]

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