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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think some people get married with the false expectation that marriage gives them some legal entitlement to sex at a certain frequency.[/quote]

Agree. Or if not a legal entitlement, a moral one. 
It seems to be a cultural norm that a man's ongoing desire for sex is more important than a woman's equally normal waning interest in sex, after menopause (or for some, after childbirth). I'm not sure why that's fair.[/quote]

[b]Implicit in monogamy is the idea that one’s spouse will engage in a reasonable amount of sex. [/b] No one views marriage as a potential vow of celibacy at someone else’s discretion.[/quote]

The key word here is reasonable which is somewhat subjective.

But if you read on here and advice columns, movies, etc. will give you the idea that most men consider anything less than once a week to be totally unacceptable and tantamount to abuse.

I would say 3-4 times a month is reasonable.[/quote]

You would be completely wrong about that. If you can't even commit 20 minutes with your spouse twice per week, you should not be married (or at least not demand fidelity). Most dog owners spend more time picking up poop than that.[/quote]
DP, but it’s not just that, and you know it.  There are SO many posts on this forum from people whose spouses would agree to that, but then the posters whine that it’s not exciting.  The spouses aren’t “engaged” or “creative” enough.  And 20 minutes?  That’s not nearly long enough, to hear them tell it.

I’m with PP.[/quote]

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