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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Depression is rampant among teens now. Is it due to the fact that the world is stressful? social media? broken families? pressure cooker environment at school? environmental pollution? I don't know.

[b]Adult supervision and support at home is crucial, but realistically how many people can afford that? [/b]

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A lot of people on this web site can afford it but they get shamed by other posters who think it is "useless" for parents to stay home during the teen years. Whenever I see that, I wonder if they remember what it is like to BE a teen or have met any teens lately. Teens are not adults. They may look like they are, but psychologically and emotionally they are far from grown.

Some are responsible and mature and can make good decisions for themselves but many (probably most) are not. They still need a lot of guidance, support, and supervision. [/quote]

I think it all depends on your pain threshold. People want and wish for the best for their children, but may not want to upend their lives working to make it happen.

I know a person who is probably a very strong woman. Her DD was sexually abused by several male care takers for prolonged periods and multiple times when she was a child.  Yet, this child was put in similar situations all the time. In her teens this kid acted out in terrible ways - performing sex acts for money, older men, multiple partners etc.  In all of these, the neighbor who could afford to stay home and guide the kid, chose not to halt her life. Maybe she was not capable of it, maybe her circumstance did not permit it.   I am sure she did not want these terrible things to happen to her child, but life goes on for her. And no, this person did not have a great career. She is in the service industry.

To be at home can be something that takes a financial or mental toll on people, just like going to work can.  How do you embrace  your state of being happily? How do you prioritize? Should you stay home for teens, so that you can  be ready to prevent all the bad things that may happen to them?  What about the cost to do that to your own well being and finances?

No easy answers here. [/quote]

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