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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP you committed to pay for college. Your son is making his own choices. If he isn't super motivated it's all the more important he get that degree. If the school thought he was unworthy they'd be kicking him out. Use a tough love approach and by that I mean the opposite: shower him with love and let him know how much you care about him and his future and keep the dialog open. Encourage or require him to start visiting his career center to start thinking ahead. [/quote]

OP, have you thought of sending him to an accredited college overseas? The reason I am saying this is that he might be totally overwhelmed by the way American education is especially at the tertiary level. There is no teaching involved. The professor/TA gives students the course syllabus and it's the students responsibility to do and submit the work by the specified deadline. This is true for every subject in most colleges where there is  minimal or no direct teaching.
Colleges overseas are different. The professors explain even if the class size is very large.
 My child is doing well in college but he cannot fathom how he is supposed to do everything on his own. So he gets help from an outside tutor --- just like several of his classmates. 
Have you asked him if it is simple disinterest of just a workload on steroids?
Let me give you an example for a history (elective) class. 
1. Watch a movie every week.
2. Read 4-5 articles posted on the website.
3- answer questions referring to the articles.
4. Write a 300-350 word essay analyzing a clip in the movie using information from the readings.
This, in addition to quizzes, tests and exams. [/quote]

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