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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I became a SAHM after being a working mother for 5 years and wow is it eye opening how differently some women will treat you.

We are not wealthy by DCUM standards (HHI of $200k) and have one child in an independent school, so one one income, things are tighter than they used to be, but we still contribute to both retirement accounts and save. We eat out a lot less and took 2 weeks of vacations this year instead of the 4 weeks did in the past. I also shop a lot less.

Based on these lifestyle changes, I've received many critical and intrusive comments from friends and acquaintances about our choices. What people don't know is that I have suffered for years from some debilitating mental health issues and this change has been life changing for our family. We are all happier and healthier than we've ever been. My DH and I have chosen to keep my personal health information private, but it would be nice if people could give other humans a little bit of grace.

One thing I noticed right away when I became a SAHM is that you cannot ever complain in any way about having a hard day. WOHM will not stand for it. I try to keep under the radar and not appear too perfect, because otherwise more people will have something nasty to say. [/quote]

[b]I quit my lucrative career to care for my husband who had disorders plus anger issues.[/b] Kids were 3 and 5 then. It saved our marriage and I do a lot in the side and work PT now.  His anger went away, [b]he can still hyper focus at his lucrative job well,[/b] the kids are thriving, I’m more multifaceted. Kids are safe and healthy, unlike what happened when I’d return from a two day biz trip or hear angry explosions.

People should just be supportive and find common ground. ESP when stuff doesn’t even affect them, at all. [/quote]

Can I ask you a question?
Is one of your husband's disorders ADHD?
My son has ADHD & he too becomes hyper focused on negative things.  His greatest challenge related to his ADHD is not picking up on social cues & I'm wondering if this will all lead to anger issues in him as well, like it has for your husband?[/quote]

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