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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not one person brought up child abuse except trying to make a hyperbolic argument to prove a point? To what end? No one here said or thinks that. But if you think a vacation like this is undoable, well I guess no sports, or birthday parties or anything during the day because of OMG baby for the next few years? Who lives like that and expects not to get it pointed out that these things are all still doable. If OP would just own this is more about her than the baby I would respect that. But to try to make it sound like this little special snowflake just can't handle this vacation is just not true with the facts presented. There are so many work around.

To say the older child must learn that she/he can't do things like this because of the baby will only breed resentment. Family is about give and take and I would be curious what op has given lately. [/quote]

are you that unable to make boundaries with your child that you can't delay the gratification of a vacation one or two years? vacations are not human rights. the kid will live to tell the tale. [/quote]

No, but I am not so conceited that I would put my needs above the needs of my family/children. 
The excuses OP is using for why she can't go on this trip would apply to several other activities and family events. 
How does she plan to handle visiting grandparents, drop off/ pick up from school, activiites, parades, shopping even. 
If she has to hole up at home all day because of this baby, that is going to be a huge bummer for her first kid. 
It sounds like OP just really doesn't want to go and is inflating the "OMG so difficult, nothing will work at all to make this trip doable" attitude. 
That is the issue many of us have  with her. She isn't owning her own preferences and instead is trying to make it seem like this kid is a major buzz kill when in reality millions of parents do these things every single day and make it work. Where there is a will there is a way.

If she really wanted to make it work she would. It is clear to everyone she doesn't want to. 
I am a working mom and while i would hate to use all of my vacation time on this week long trip, i would own that and not try to blame and make up excuses about why my kids won't allow this to happen.

The fact is that naps can still happen, kids can still eat, OP can still enjoy the beach and down time and boating and everything else if she wanted to.

Will the oldest kid survive no family vacations. Yep, but it is the reason that no fun can be had that is offputting to us. The OP obviously has the means and ability to show her older kid some fun and she is whining about having to miss a 6 hour boat ride? WTF?[/quote]

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