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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - you need to be firm with your mom. People with pushy parents get used to giving in and being pushed around. You probably figure its not worth the hassle to keep saying no and give in. Now you are married and it sounds like you married someone who is not a push over and doesn't want to invite the drama into your house. Your mother will not like having you say no to her and many boundary pushing people will react harshly when a boundary is set. You are going to have to deal with this eventually so its better to do it now.

Look forward a few years and what will happen when your mother invites herself to stay with you after your new baby is born? What happens when your wife says no way and mom insists? Get your mother used to the hotel and some appropriate boundaries. She needs to learn to respect that you are an independent adult not her man child. You don't need to be rude about it or say anything hurtful. Its better not to have a reason.

Mom, we didn't invite you to stay with us. There is a hotel nearby and we would be happy to get together for insert all the appropriate times.

Mom, we are not going to host you and dad, please stop pushing.

If she whines, why? Just say, it doesn't matter. We just aren't comfortable hosting. We'd love to see you but if you keep insisting on only staying in our house then we'll need to cancel the visit. 
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Gurlllllll
This is an appointment with YOUR therapist and a major exaggeration of what OP said. [/quote]

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