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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have worked all but 2 years of my adult life but I think these anti alimony women are nuts.

Children need their parents time, not shoved off in daycare for 12 hours a day. That means one parent needs to step out of the full rat race. Either DHor I have worked PT since our child was born.

Many high earner men want SAHM wives until they get bored with them. SaHs contribute greatly to a family's well being. The working parent cant try to offload their spouse at almost 60 and get away with it.[/quote]

OP we.  This is my situation.  My higher earning DH just wants out. He’s tired of me. And as I’ve said before I did not SAH I was in the office or working remotely every day even when on vacation. I agree with the poster who said maybe I should sue for back wages. But I don’t want to be contentious. I just want to part ways but after all these years and at my age it’s not fair he can retire soon and I have to start all over. Unfortunately we don’t have much assets to split. We poured everything in the business. Which now is doing pretty well. He will continue to reap the steady flow of income and I’m left with very little in form of retirement account etc. [/quote]

Actually, it sounds like alimony would be counterproductive. Make him buy you out from the business. Start with the premise that it belongs to both of you because it does.

Seriously, you need to see a lawyer. You own 50% of that business - he can’t have it unless he buys you out. That’s not contentious, that’s reality. Also - if you weren’t part owner and a partner in the business - he was breaking all sorts of labor laws by not having you on the books and paying you at least minimum wage. Family businesses are exempt from a lot of regulation because they benefit the family, it’s not intended as a vehicle for modern day slavery.

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