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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think all husbands are disappointing but mine is.

- Almost always no shows to kids events. I stopped making excuses but it makes no sad for them.
- No sex in years, even when I try to initiate.
- Drinks to the point of passing out every night. (This may  explain the no sex.)
- Goes silent randomly - not contactable by phone or text. Usually when he sneaks off to a bar with his buddies.
- Lectures me. All. The. Time. About stupid stuff like what I made the kids for breakfast.
- Hyper critical and judgmental of others.
- Under-employed after quitting a perfectly good job without having another job lined up. 
- Worries about money privately but tries to act like he is a high roller to friends and acquaintances.
- Is a total snob.
- Rude to my family.
- Angry with the world - blames others for his misfortune. Never considers what part he may have in life situations.

We tried therapy - he thought it was stupid. I have suggested marriage retreats. I read a great marriage book and bought him a copy. I think he will actually be surprised when I ask for a divorce this summer. In retrospect, there were warning signs, but he was a lot of fun when we dated. He has spiraled down quickly with age.[/quote]

How do you know he's sneaking off to bars with "guys"?  Almost sounds like he's cheating and has purposely distanced himself from you. I would probably confirm that, but you guys have so many problems not sure it's worth it. I'd probably just divorce him. Much easier to find a better partner....I mean you can only go up from what you have...[/quote]

Thank you! I know because he eventually admits it or his friends tell me (because they don't realize he is trying to be sneaky.

Honestly - I appreciate you validating where I am. I kept feeling like a failure and was banging my head against the wall trying to make our marriage succeed. I finally realized he just doesn’t care about me - except my wallet and benefits. It sucks, but I am hopeful I can be a happier mama after we finally separate/divorce. I have no illusion about how hard divorced life will be, but it has to be better than arguing in front of the kids and then asking us to stop :-([/quote]

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