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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You seem to really think they owe it to you to tell you this information. It's kind of astounding that you would think that![/quote]

Op here. I have taken my humble pie and admitted that perhaps there are good reasons to not disclose. I’ll admit that in hindsight. But I also take offense to those social media friends that posts family details nonstop, drawing people in for clicks or nice comments about their families, lives, accomplishments, etc. they are putting it out there for everyone to admire and comment on, drawing us in and making us part of the extended family. Affirmations.

Maybe part of my humble pie approach is that I just won’t take the bait anymore and refuse clicking or providing comments to essentially make them feel better about the pics or updates. It doesn’t always get to go one way. Like many of the more angry posters have said, none of my business. My response going forward could very well be, just don’t ask me to participate in the game. I think its a fair response. They knew that people would ask, especially posting as much as they do. It’s within their right to withhold it. But it’s also within my right to ignore future posts.

I already know that some of you will be like “ no don’t do that,” but seriously it’s an exchange. People have choice to share and to respond.

Consequences or else it will always be a Lucy/Charlie Brown situation.
[/quote]That's certainly your prerogative.  I can't see how anyone would mind if you "clicked" less.  But it surprises me that you don't consider that maybe there is something seriously wrong going on with the kid and that the family is struggling with it in secret.  Yes, if it were me, I'd be up front about it.  But it's not me and maybe they're really embarrassed and have a hard time being honest about such things. And if so, I would wonder but I would try to be supportive.  That would be my takeaway.[/quote]Pp again.  I wanted to add that I would also be grateful that I'm not like them - either that my kid isn't under this kind of pressure or that I don't feel driven to post this false narrative about my kid.  Be relieved that you know better than to behave that way and be grateful for the lightness that puts in your life.[/quote]

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