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[quote=Anonymous]Finally read this book. Wow, as someone who lived through a mini-version of what she describes, I identified so much with all of it.

I guess I shouldn't be surprised that people are internet-sleuthing this to try to prove that she "faked" it and was exaggerating.  But she does absolute backflips in the book to question her own memories -- in fact, the reality and reliability of memories is a MAJOR theme in the book.  And to see the mental process of her questioning her own memories (due to her family gaslighting) was painful to see, because that's what I've experienced myself.

If she was completely falsifying everything, then that's what they would have said.  Not vague "Oh, Tara is our beloved daughter we still love her even though she's lost to Satan."  Instead, the MO is to gaslight: insist that she misinterpreted what she saw, and then turn the tables by discrediting her as evil.

The fact is, when you insist that someone who has gone through trauma remember every single detail correctly, you're imposing an impossible standard on them. Nobody's memory is 100% perfect; and every person has their own perspective.  What abusive leaders & parents do is turn around this inherent imperfection of memory to try to prove that the victim did not experience what they actually know that they did.  [/quote]

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