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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]and take this as a warning, Op, that you really need to be making more of an effort to make friends[/quote]

OP here. OMG you guys are seriously crazy. I moved to a new state 2 weeks ago. I am getting shit on because I don't have friends and apparently it's no big deal to give birth alone. Wow. Thanks so much for the advice. [/quote]

You are the one who decided to move while 8 or 9 months pregnant.  We aren’t the bad ones for pointing out that you e put yourself in a pretty bad situation. Either make friends, fly a family member in, or hire a babysitter.  You asked, why shoot the messenger?  (Also, insane pregnant people are the WORST!)[/quote]

Yeah OP is definitely the insane one on this thread...uh huh.

I moved at 8 months pregnant with my first and am likely to move at 4-6 months with my second. Sometimes life is complicated and there are not ideal choices, especially in an area like this with so many transplants. We have family about 1.5 hours away we could ask for help if we have enough time and warning, but births don't always go that way, and that is a BIG ask for new neighborhood friends, I wouldn't do it. Can we admit this can be a tough problem worth considering alternatives and not insult OP for not having a perfect life with a perfect local support system? [/quote]

OP here. I have no idea where people are getting that I moved at 8 months pregnant. I am only 4 months. [/quote]

OP, you are being very childish and difficult. Your original post suggested you wouldn't have time for arranging family or friends to come or to make friends locally or to develop a relationship with a trusted sitter. You have 4-5 months left, and can do any one of these things. I think a trusted sitter/nanny and/or doula would be the best if you think the due date isn't certain given DC #1's birth.[/quote]

OP here. I don't why it's so hard for people to understand that family or friends are not an option. Yes I shot that down because again it's not an option. Our family lives abroad and they cannot be here. I never shot down a babysitter or a doula. Those are both options we're looking into now. It's funny how women shit on each other on this forum. You insult me for things I did not really do and then try to play nice at the end. There are some really sick people on this forum and I am staying away from now onwards.

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You were rude from the get-go. First posters suggested your DH stay home with your child, you freaked out. Well, what about a doula with you while DH stays home, we asked? You clapped back again. Another said to bring in friends/family. You said family is overseas. Okay, but what about close friends? (That's right, you probably don't have any). People shat on you because you shat on people offering solutions first. [/quote]

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Just read the last few pages of this thread and ... just... wow. OP you seem really nasty. We tried to help you with about a dozen suggestions and you attacked and insulted people every step of the way. No longer surprised you are freaking out about getting help six months from now. I have no doubt that you truly do not have one friend, family member, or acquaintance local or in your old city or abroad who would want to come help you. Nor the ability to form that type of friendship or possibly even hired arrangement in the next five or six months before the baby arrives. Also wishing you luck. I think you need it! [/quote]

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