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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why don't you just divorce instead of turning into a slut? Your marriage is obviously over if you are considering an affair.[/quote]

OP here. Well, let's see.  It is possible to love your family, children, and yet still desire other things.  My consideration of an affair doesn't mean I care about my family less than you care about yours, I am just thinking about it and putting my thoughts in an anonymous public forum.  I care about my marriage and neither my husband and I have a desire to end it, however, we are both upfront about the fact that there's something missing presently and I have voiced my desire to have an open marriage in the past.  He has never explicitly opposed it, but I doubt I'll ever get his blessing either.  As far as "blowing up" someone else's marriage, the man I am interested in is an adult, and he can make his own decisions.  Should I decide to let him know I'm interested, and he doesn't take the bait, I'm not going to continue the pursuit.  [/quote]

I'm curious OP...
What makes you think it'll be an ongoing affair?  I mean he is married with kids so what makes you think he'll be available for regular rendezvous?  
You mentioned that you [i]"need regular sex in my life and that is just not happening." [/i]  So what makes you so certain that he won't just hit it and quit it either due to the guilt from cheating on his wife or due to the awkwardness of screwing a co-worker?

If you're truly considering it then try and put some actual thought into it and ask yourself, "What are the odds of this actually ending up all roses and rainbows as I daydream it will be and what are the odds it A) becomes a drama-filled disaster or B) it never pans out as I envisioned because he doesn't have the availability or the moral apathy that I have?"[/quote]

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