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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I’m not going to jump on you, but you really should re-read your post.  I am the same way-I could have written this in that I am often blind/selfish to others’ feelings when I can only see how things benefit me.  Admitting that to myself was very hard and I’m honestly not sure how I got to be that person.  But I am working on it and can see more clearly now how I sound and act.  Although maybe not-notice how this is all about me  :roll:

What I’m trying to say is that you need to take a step back and honestly realize that you are viewing both your mom and your MIL in a transactional sense.  Nowhere in your post do you acknowledge that MIL is upset she is missing out on bonding with her grandkids and wants more.  Nor do you acknowledge that your mom is also building a wonderful relationship with her grandkids in between working for you.  You seem stuck on what they can give you in return for access to your children.  You are headed for a lonely future if you don’t fix your thinking.  MIL shouldn’t have to be more helpful than your mom to have more time with her grandkids.[/quote]

This is great advice that OP won’t take - she’s entitled and bratty. [/quote]

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