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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I once was part of a convo where friend A told friend B that she was envious of friend B for being a mother to one bc that’s what she wanted but wasn’t confident enough to not fold to the pressure of two.

The mother of one said she loved being a mother of one but felt ppl thought she was selfish for having a nice set up where they traveled a lot and had a small family.

Lesson is: life is complicated and all choices have upsides and downsides! [/quote]

I'm a mom of one and I get what your friend B is feeling. DH and I have had long conversations and are confident in our choice. It allows us to both keep working--which is important to us--and gives us a ton more financial flexibility. It means our house has ample room (DD has a bedroom and playroom to herself; we have a separate office and a separate guest room). We already feel like our lives are full balancing working FT and having a toddler, and we both recognize that adding another kid into the mix would just add more stress.

But I also know there's this notion out there that you're not *really* parenting unless you're running around constantly with your hair on fire all the time. I try to just ignore that, but there's a small feeling of guilt that, when DD goes to bed or is napping, I can just relax. We can afford a cleaning person, so we don't have to spend our weekends cleaning the house. When she gets older and is involved in activities, we can both go see her, rather than having to split up and take one kid one place and the other kid somewhere else.

Anyway, there's another woman on my block--who has a kid almost exactly DD's age--who is also one and done by choice. She's a few years older than me, but I believe could have another child if she wanted to. In any case, there's two families for you, OP! :)  [/quote]

I have three and can't afford a cleaning service. But lady, you ARE really parenting! Feel zero guilt! Enjoy your relaxing time. Don't buy into that Mommy Martyr crap. [/quote]

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