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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here and I should add that no one who meets DD believes she has issues with nutrition, except for her size. Her vitals are fine. Her moods are stable. She has friends. She’s smart and excels at her activities. She is sparkly and vibrant. Her teachers love her. She is beautiful with a dancer’s build. She rarely gets sick - in fact her immune system is stronger than anyone I know. She takes after my husband’s side of the family, who are all very late bloomers. Puberty is years away. For all these reasons, it is hard to accept there is something more serious or life threatening at play. It seems so unbelievable, yet here we are.

As for the dietician’s suggestion, I believe this was not a coordinated effort. If it were, I would expect a meeting with the full team. This was an off-the-cuff remark that set me reeling. There is no way she would recommend waiting three months if the situation were so dire as to necessitate immediate intervention. If the full team were to sit down with us, we would be taking a different approach.[/quote]

OP, this is really hard and I wish the best for your DD.

This post -- and I mean this is the most caring, understanding way -- makes you sound like you're trying your best to justify the path of least resistance when it may not be in your child's best interest. A medical professional who knows Children's tells you that the feeding tube advice is coordinated at some level: it likely is, or is protocol in these cases, or will be warranted soon and they are trying to get you used to that real possibility. To say she has a "dancer's body" is unnecessarily glamorizing what is likely a serious problem, not to say your DD isn't beautiful. Puberty may be years away, but is also may not be.

Sleep on this and consult some new experts, hopefully without having to subject your already anxious child to more tests at first. This is so tough, and I feel for you. [/quote]

I agree with the above. At almost 12, puberty should not be "years away" for a healthy, growing child. [/quote]

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