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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm always amazed by threads like this (about building villages, or wishing for family nearby) and how nasty they become. Is it that misery loves company?

Of course some people are lucky enough to be able to hire help, but that's not a community.[/quote]

I just have trouble with the line between “community” vs the expectation that other women provide unpaid labor for me when I’m in a crisis. I find it odd that OP’s problem isn’t with her husband, his job, her own job, the lack of nearby family, or OP and her husband’s choice to not live by family. “The problem” apparently is that OP can design her life to work for her 95% of the time, but when she hits a crisis, other women around her are just supposed to step in with emotional support, meals, childcare, transportation, etc. That seems vaguely misogynist to me.[/quote]

I don't agree that community always = unpaid women's labor.  We do things for the men in our lives too.  My husband opened up our basement for a good friend who needed a place to stay for about three weeks.  He helps out his friends who need physical labor to move furniture, drove out to pick up a friend whose rental car had problems miles away, delivered gasoline for a buddy during a power outage, has visited a pal who was hospitalized - granted, didn't bring gifts the way a woman would, but was there for emotional support.  His friends have helped us out in return.

Men care about other men just as women do.  [/quote]

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