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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know what I would do. But a cautionary tale for you: My cousin had a friend in high school who was an excellent hockey player. He was offered the same thing, and at age 15, moved a two-hour flight away to live with a host family to play hockey.

Years later it came out that the host dad was an abusive alcoholic but a connected figure in youth hockey so everyone gave him a pass. In the meantime the kid grew up and did play D1 hockey. But he was never quite good enough to make the NHL. Eventually after years of hoping he'd get called up and failing, he went to play in a second-tier foreign league. Finally he moved back, over 30 years old, with no marketable job skills and a useless degree from a D1 school. He now makes his living coaching youth hockey and I think doing some side work for his dad.

Meanwhile the strain of having their kid so far away while having other 
kids to raise as well broke the marriage of the parents, and the divorce was contentious, so the financial hit was significant. There's a lot of resentment involving the other siblings too.

Apparently this sort of experience isn't uncommon. Abuse is rampant. Kids usually don't make the Olympics/pros. Families break from the strain.

Obviously sometimes it works really well, but I think those are the stories you hear about, not the cautionary tales.[/quote]

Lots of marriages break up for a lot of reasons. [/quote]

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