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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]H leaving me with only a temporary work permit, our child to take care of, and “generously” paying about 85% of our rent. 
I was out of the workforce for 6 years because he was dragging his feet about our green cards. So I had to quickly find a job, any job, to feed the child and pay those 15% of the rent. I was babysitting, pet sitting, cleaning houses, taking part in clinical trials and focus groups, other odd jobs, all the while looking for a full time professional job and worrying about the green card.
I was living in this invisible poverty, where to the world I was (still) married to a software engineer with a 200k HHI. Yet I was dirt poor as he cut off access to “his” money. I felt I could not tell anyone because of the green card (though it was not a marriage based case and it was a bona Fide marriage and a long term one). 
I am now a permanent resident and have a great full time professional job, I can afford enrichment for my son.
I have yet to pluck up my courage to file for divorce - stbx is not going to be happy with what he will have to pay in child support...
I realize it sounds minor compared to a lot of situations here. But the worst was the invisibility and shame of my near- poverty. 
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That sounds incredibly hard, especially being in a country with no family support.[/quote]
Thank you so much!
My family has always been pretty useless anyway.
The worst was shame and having to hide it. If you have seen “Pursuing happyness”, it shows it very well. How he is an intern at a finance firm by day and an exhausted single dad by night, trying to give his son a semblance of normalcy in life. How he screams at the child “Shut up!!” because he is so desperate. I cried so much when I watched it.  I was lucky not to have to go to a shelter though.
I am still traumatized. I am still thinking if I need to let the world know what I went through, or should try to get past it. [/quote]

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