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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It would be CRAZY for him to waste money and time on a graduate degree when he isnt sure what he wants/ Yes, he should graduate college, get a job, work, pay his own way. What grad program do you want him to even do?? Many are a waste of time and money[/quote]

Ditto.  At first I thought the title of this thread was a typo.  How could "son wants to start working after undergraduate" be a problem???  That's what I want my kids to do.[/quote]

Yes, yes, yes.  Many people work for a few years right after undergrad to get a sense of what they want their career to be.  Dropping money for a graduate or professional program without any inkling of whether it's what they want to do, whether that degree is actually of value to move into that career path, or just because your mom is horrified you "only" have a bachelor's are all bad ideas (even if it's mom and dad's money).  Particularly law school.  Dear lord, do not drop six figures on a JD unless your kid actually wants to be a lawyer or you'll end up with a miserable associate who flames out in his third year or a contract document review attorney.

Let the kid graduate and get a job and see where it makes the best sense for him to go from there.[/quote]

I agree completely!

A few things:
a) law school doesn't provide the secure future it used to.  So lets not even talk about that.
b) a PhD is grueling. There are serious rewards, but the process is not for the meek. If a kid is wavering going in, the odds of finishing and finishing well are small. Work, clear your head, get perspective!
c) OP - is part of your concern that you are generally a cautious person who chose a relatively safe path with the career choice you made and this is outside your comfort zone (like me)?  Repeat what I repeat every night as I worry about my own kid "this worry is about you, not about him.  Keep your mouth shut.)
d) If he is unhappy working, he will make a new decision and he will be lucky to have supportive parents when and if that occurs.[/quote]

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