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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a first time mom at 43 (!) with one and only DD. I'll be 62 by the time she goes to college. I've had a 20-year career, and am most recently C-level at a large company. I feel like I've achieved the highest point of my career, and I could be doing the same thing for 20 years before retiring. Or start my own company, which would have its own trajectory. Obviously I've wanted DD for a long time, and love spending time with her. When she gets older, I could go back to work PT, or freelance, or volunteer. Has anyone go from SAHM to retirement and any tips?[/quote]

Haven’t read any other replies. But, are you me?? Except I did it! Couldn’t be happier.[/quote]

I've been thinking about starting a similar thread. I"m 45, earned a lot of money already, saved most of it and due to two young kids, one with a labor-intensive condition, I'm seriously thinking about "retiring" or staying at home or living off the money I already earned/saved. My problem, fear of loosing my self-definition. I even know what I want to do in the volunteer space. Actually, my DH doesn't want me to which is bothersome because we can live off his income and since we've met, I've earned 1/3 more than him. For example, he earns 200K and our mortgage is less than most apartments. [/quote]

I think your DH has to be on board for you to be a SAHM. Sounds like you are and were always the higher earner.

How old are your kids?
Could you do a lateral more flexible job?

I’m the 40yo pp.[b] DH likes me staying home because he can focus on his career. He doesn’t have to stress out about picking up the kids on time or whether he will need to call out tomorrow because school might be closed because it is too cold[/b].[/quote]

Read this carefully.  Many men want their wife to stay home simply so their own life is easier.  Having a SAHM benefits the man more than the woman.  He’s out there with his own identity and contributing to retirement accounts that are in his name only. His career options and salary continue to grow.  You’re stuck at home and your identity is working for your spouse and children as a cook, nanny, maid, party planner, etc.  He’s in the outside world and you’re trapped behind the scenes.  Oh wait volunteer work....more unpaid labor that benefits men.

If you’re an ambitious woman who likes to stay busy you most likely won’t enjoy staying home.

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We actually have a cook, babysitter and housekeeper. My husband cleans more than I do. I hate doing the dishes and dh often runs the dishwasher at night.

I was extremely ambitious. My three children keep me busy and I’m far from bored. I spent many years trying to juggle work life balance. I’m far happier now. I have time to take care of myself and focus on the children. Our family is better that I stay home.

Every family is different. [/quote]

Wow this sounds like bragging and you're incredibly lazy. [/quote]

This thread is about going from SAHM to retirement. Pp says that ambitious women would be bored staying home.

I was SVP and director level before staying home full time with no plans to return to the workforce. I would say my experience is relevant to this thread.

I don’t have a FT housekeeper. She comes every other week. I am not lazy and I am not bored. And I have a ton of hobbies and projects I would love to do if I had more time.[/quote]

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