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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One thing I'm realizing now that DC has finished up all his college apps is how some things I thought were real passions/true about him may be a bit of a front--not totally but in part.  We didn't put on tons of pressure, but the general environment and his peers probably did somewhat and we occasionally reminded him about what would 'look good to colleges' etc.

But now that it's over, and he got in early to his first choice, he seems to be taking a breath--mid year class grades slacked a bit (mostly B+'s instead of A's), less interested in his extracurricular work.  I know senioritis is a thing and it's not that I care about getting all As. But I guess I'm relieved we didn't let college admissions drive the boat of our family life more because there's part of me who feels like there's this brief window of time living at home that I get to know my kid as a teen without "getting into college" hanging over him.  Even though he's got the outcome he wanted and we're really happy, it's kind of like "all this for just that?" kind of feeling in our family.  So I'm glad I didn't start plotting in middle school or we would probably[i] really[/i] all end up with "is that all there is?" feeling.  [/quote]

But that is how most families are who don’t let getting into college come before health and happiness of their child and avoid all the stress and fakeness. And that is why it has all become such a scam. And that is why most colleges are full of rich white kids who have had tutors, test prep, help with essays, and are entitled enough to have never had to never work. Their “job” was to meet with tutors and get A’s for college. They have no idea that they did very little to actually get themselves to the college they got in. Parents time and $$$ got you there.

I mean really. Going to community college and transferring to a 4yr college junior year is what many non-DCUM’ers do in the real world. All while working part time too. Most have never heard of Amherst, Harvey Mudd, Bowdoin, etc... But this area is so hell bent on top tier colleges and play this game at their child’s growing years expense. It is pretty sickening when you think about it. Childhood is only 18 years of your entire life. We all enjoyed ours, but for some reason we are taking our own kids at age 10 or 12 and expecting them to be mini adults and thinking about college. It’s just exhausting, especially for only a bachelor’s degree. [/quote]

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