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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]your brother is an ungrateful asshole, and it's telling that "you can see his point of view". your parents made many mistakes, most obviously, invest so heavily in their oldest children at the expense of their younger children, and also, by misunderstanding education at american schools. you would have been better off studying medicine in india and then coming to the US.[/quote]

[b]When poor people become lower middle class and want to educate their children, they are not very aware of educational pathways or how to plan financially.  Poverty in India is different from poverty in US.  [/b]OP's father have achieved a lot by educating his kids in the first place because that is unussual in India.  Free and quality K-12 educatuon like in the US is not available to the majority of children and where it is available the aim is to make student literate not educated.

OP, it is not fun to be poor and this kind of chronic scarcity you and your family are undergoing can make you become negative and depressed.  You and your family need to sit together and work out a budget and get a fair idea of what the true financial picture is.  You have to help and pay at least the money spent on you (the loan and interest) back to your parents before you can think of walking away.  The same must be shared with your sibling who is feeling tremendous stress.

Look for loan forgiveness plan as well as start a GoFundMe if you need to.  Fundraise, ask for charity and loan forgiveness.    There is a way out of this darkness but your siblings have to be educated to stand on their own two feet[/quote]

OP's father was a government worker so he himself must have been educated. he evidently knew about education to pick up a private school in britain for his kids. what he did not know is that americans go to college for reasons that are entirely different from the rest of the world (and that will change eventually, and painfully).[/quote]

Enlighten me. DH and I went to medical school because,  I dunno, you cannot practice medicine without an education in America. Why is our reason any different from kids who go to college in Scandinavia?[/quote]

a vast majority of kids in the USA go to college to have fun and pursue entirely useless degrees. only very few become doctors. your case is not at all typical.[/quote]

Lol. You're a complete idiot. Wow. You obviously have a very low opinion of Americans and know very little about this country. What makes you an expert on this topic? [/quote]

Components of this thread are disturbing. Nothing from OP, but the idea that a college degree is wasteful if you're not becoming a doctor, lawyer, etc. There are people that go to school and enter the workforce with the idea of changing the world and contributing to society despite the fact they will spend money for a degree and not spend their life making buckets of money in return. Teachers are very good examples--many of whom have masters degrees and walk knowingly into thankless jobs. You'll be very thankful one day for the people that have taken these roles in life--the EMT that saves your life, the teacher that educates your child. [/quote]
You know what? I'm grateful for the doctors that kept me from dying before I grew up. I'm grateful for the lawyer that helped me end an abusive marriage. That is irrelevant to the question of whether or not OP should look for a better paying job to help repay the debt her father took on for her education.  It is also irrelevant to whether or not her siblings will be afforded the same opportunity she has.[/quote]

You're deflecting from what I posted. I certainly wasn't implying that lawyers and doctors don't also perform very important functions in our society. I am stating that many responses have an underlying tone of classism that disturbs me. From the poster that said the vast majority of American kids go to university to party to the other poster that said it's a disgrace to work in a non-profit if your parents paid for you to go to college. My post is relevant to the observations I'm sharing, regardless of whether they relate to OP's question. Obviously I wasn't responding to her question since I stated she didn't appear to be participating in the innuendos I'm referring to.  [/quote]

Come on. Many Americans go to party colleges. That type of college party culture, Greek system of fraternity / sorority, etc., is virtually unknown in the rest of the world.[/quote]

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