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[quote=Anonymous]I think it's so interesting how some folks on here are so one-dimensional about marriage.  Marriage has so many facets to it.  To those who are so clear that cheating equals divorce without any further discussion or thought, do you feel the same way about all the other aspects of your marriage?  What if your spouse unilaterally put you and your family in major debt? what if they disrespected you on an ongoing basis? what if they were an absentee parent?  Or didn't equally participate in managing the household? My guess is that none of the other parts to a marriage would be an absolute deal-breaker.  SOme may eventually LEAD to divorce after talking about it, discussing it, trying to fix it, but none would be a "no discussion - we're divorcing" situation.

All these things, and more, contribute to a marriage.  Yet, so many on here would put up with these other transgressions but once sex is involved, it's an absolute.  I guess for me, there are ebbs and flows in a marriage and there are so many important parts.  Yes, having sex outside the marriage is one part of the marriage, but it's not the whole part.  Spouses should look at each other in total when determining whether to divorce.

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spouse whose partner cheated, who went to marriage counseling for several years, and who decided to stay in the marriage and now (after 20 years) has a very good and successful marriage. [/quote]

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