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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No.  Throughout the tread there have been posting's of individuals looking the other way of their spouse's infidelity.  Some might say even with kids (young) as long as the cheating spouse is a good provider and father.  What individual's are pushing aside is the message sent to the kids when trust, lying and deceit are involved.  As adults, you as spouses have a choice how to live there lives and to raise their children.  However, from experience, the message will be sent to the kids that it is ok to cheat not just to your spouse but, to their relationships.

My son of 13 years old at the time of the affair has some hatred to my XW.  As my son is 24 now, I confronted his mother that - "You will never understand how damaging it was for a child to hear her father sobbing at night. My father is, and always will be, my hero."  It torn me apart because I never discussed ever as the faithful spouse and I am just floored the he has kept this hidden so long.  And we had two younger kids at the time as well.    [/quote]

If they don't have kids that's one thing. Yes kids know everything that goes in the home at early ages. I don't know why so many on here are in denial about that. My relatives husband left her for another woman at age 50. Two of the three kids never talked to him again. Wasn't invited to the wedding etc. It was a ugly divorce. He wanted the house and the new woman, but the house was awarded to his wife who still had the 2 kids at home. Kids over hear, are nosy and will find out. Best to stop living a deviant lifestyle once you decide to have kids, hopefully before. 
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Kids are an after thought when a spouse cheats.  As a father and now dealing with a DW who I just found out she has had an extra marital affair since year (she does not know I know), my two young kids are my priority.  One of my young kids under 10 already told me that "mommy is not hope and went on a trip for a few days."  The lying is just out of control.  Thank goodness we have a babysitter.  The DW does not return my calls by the babysitter's calls.  Thank goodness.  [/quote]

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