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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1) If you can, take kids and leave for the 5 days, or

2) You leave the kids behind and you go on a vacation for 5 days (or at least the weekend portion)

3) You do N.O.T.H.I.N.G for them for those 5 days. "Host" the first 5 days, then drop off the face of the Earth.
-Do not set up coffee in the morning or make breakfast/set out breakfast for anyone other than yourself/your kids.
-Do not buy extra food when grocery shopping. If you run out, shrug and send them out/tell them to ask DH when he plans to go shopping next.
-Make dinner for only yourself and your kids. DH can make their dinner, or they can make their own.
-Do not change out towels or sheets; that's on DH, or they can help themselves to the washing machine/linen closet.
-Take your kids to a movie. 
Etc., etc. No NOTHING when it comes to "hosting" the second set of 5 days. DH can pick up the slack, or not. Not your problem. [/quote]

This is what I do.  DH's family came for Christmas break after I had already booked this week off to relax and spend one on one time with my children.  I have a baby and an elementary school child.  I didn't lift a finger and insisted we go out to dinner for EVERY major meal like dinner, or lunch if we were already out.  For breakfast I let my guests fend for themselves.  We already had muffins, bagels and eggs.  If they needed anything - a towel, plastic baggie, whatever, I told them where it was so they could get it for themselves.  I didn't wash single dish .I let him do it or the guest do it because that is me and my husband's usual deal (I cook and he washes dishes).  I did all of the activities I had planned to do, took long naps, did all my little one on one activities with my older child that I had scheduled.  When we went out some place like the mall because they wanted one specific thing and then acted impatient if I wanted to take longer, I gave my husband "the look" and a meet uptime - "I'll be done in an hour and a half"- meet me then and then we can leave and he did it.  My house is not a hotel and you did not come when it was convenient for me.  You coordinated with my DH - since he for some reason though it was convenient, entertainment and accommodations are on him.[/quote]

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