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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been dating an amazing man for over a year, things were going well ...he had even mentioned seeing us long term, getting married and all.
Suddenly out of no where he started distancing himself, one missed call turned into him not acting like his normal self and then the truth came out.

I think the reason he broke up with my was due to his mother.
My boyfriend grew up in a stable home, with loving parents-straight laced.
He is successful and his parents are proud and then here I am.

I didn't go to college because I didn't think it was something I could afford. I was in a relationship that didn't last but ended up pregnant.
My life has not been easy. Being a single mom, working like a dog just to provide a roof over our heads.

My boyfriend was this amazing person who didn't judge me, and took care of us while we were together.
Then I met his parents and his mom was not as interested in getting to know me, she was fake. 
His dad was genuine. She had asked if I had planned to go to college, and asked if I had any aspirations, she just kept making things about success.

His parents are both successful, and so I didn't feel like I'd fit in. While his mom was nice and meeting them was not as bad as I thought, I just felt she judged me silently. His father never struck me as fake like she did. just my feeling.

When breaking up, he made it a point to say he thought while there would be a future in another life, for now he needed time to himself and to reflect on somethings.
He said he had a lot of think about and while he loves us (daughter and me) he said he isn't sure we're compatible. My lack of success was never a problem until his mother started
meddling. He has always had a close relationship with them, especially his mom. She made something of herself when she came from nothing, so he has told me.

I just feel like she judged me for being a single poor mom. Like I said, I choose not to go to college, but college isn't for everyone.

I just want my daughter to have an amazing father figure and not worry about anything, and I thought he was the one.[/quote]

I'm sorry that this happened OP. My hope for my DS (when he gets married some day) is that he marries someone kind and that he is compatible with. I wouldn't necessarily have a problem with a single mom and child, but I would have a an issue if she had no goals beyond marrying my DS and having him take care of her and her DC. It's not the current success that that would bother me so much as the lack of plans.

My guess is that your BF's mom brought up the lack of goals and the different life circumstances and asked some cogent questions about how this was going to work long term. Your BF did the rest. Also, consider too, that if your BF was truly caring for you he might have asked about your plans as well. Sometimes partners help each other get through school or achieve some career goals-- it seems like you and your BF were playing house but not thinking about a partnership. [/quote]

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