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I’m a different poster, but seriously...

- anyone, man or woman, who takes multiple tears off during their prime earning years to raise kids will NEVER be able, financially or work-advancement-wise be able to recover completely.

- the person who did work benefitted from the SAH spouse beyond just the raising of the kids. For men especially, having a SAH spouse actually boosts earnings. [b][And the SAH partner benefited from being married to someone who could afford to let them stay home, so that's a wash] [/b]

- if you haven’t spent a decade managaing schedules, transportation, laundry, etc, it’s not the sort of stuff you can just start adequately performing. My DH asks me three times a week what time he picks up our son from soccer and at which field even though it’s the same every week and on the calendar. You don’t have to SAH to be a good organizer of family life, and SAH isn’t a guarantee that it’s a skill you have. But make no mistake - it is a skill. [b] [Total nonsense. You cannot extrapolate from your husband's supposed incompetence to "you can't suddenly start managing schedules adequately". if he can manage his work schedule competently, he can manage his family schedule. IT IS NOT THAT HARD. Women just love to pretend it's hard so they can moan about how they do all the "emotional labor". ][/b]

- the bottom line: you can’t erase the different sacrifices and benefits that two parties to a marriage have born or enjoyed once they want a divorce. A divorce decree and custody plan must account for the decisions the couple made while together. [b] [Typically in divorce, women want to keep all the benefits and have their ex-husband keep making sacrifices. And yet women wonder why men are reluctant to sign up for marriage...][/b]
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Oh jeez, you must be MRA.

If a lawyer stops working when she has kids and is out of the field for 10 years, her earnings will never be what they could have been, not unlike someone who graduated into a recession. Meanwhile, her husband’s earnings will be greater than what they would have been without a SAH spouse. He will continue to enjoy that earnings bump post-divorce. Neither of them will be able to have the same standard of living post-divorce that they enjoyed together. Assuming she gets a job at $100k per year rather than the $250k she’d be making without those years out of the workforce, she has taken a huge hit to her lifetime earning capacity. It will affect her HHI forever as well as her social security payments when she’s older. Husband, otoh, will continue to benefit until the day he dies. (This is one of many reasons why I would never get divorced or agree to SAH).

It’s absurd to say women want to keep everything. It’s inarguable that their standard of living drops after divorce. [/quote]

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