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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ive spent hours and hours, months and months, years and years researching this topic.  But you know what? Adoption is the ONLY way I can mother. I had 7 rounds of IVFs only to have one 15 weeks miscarriage and one 29 weeks stillbirth. This is literally my only avenue left and damnit Im going to take it and pray for the best. Im going to be informed and try my hardest. Im going to listen and acknowledge their struggles but Im going to do it and Im not going to feel like Im humane trafficking an innocent baby. Im a good person who wants to be a mom and Im doing my best. And I will love my children as hard as you love yours. [/quote]

Im happy for you, PP! Your future sons and/or daughters [b]will be lucky to have you[/b]![/quote]

Blech.  This sentiment is exactly why so many people are anti adoption

You saying that the adoptees are "lucky to have her" as their adoptive mother implies that the rest of their story is lucky, the fact that their first/biological/birth mother had to or chose to not raise them is lucky too, that their other circumstances were lucky, that they are lucky to have to go their entire lives wondering why their parents did not want them, wondering who they are, wondering where they are from, wondering their family's origins.  No, that's not lucky.  It's soul crushing.  Adoptees have a really hard identity crisis to survive.  [/quote]

And then there are the children that had to be raised by birth parents that didn't want or weren't equipped to deal with raising a kid.  Or the kids who parents did want them but then the family went through some trauma or tragedy that rocked everything and the parents neglected them.  I imagine some of those kids would say that someone being adopted by a loving, stable home was lucky.  Many, many people have their challenges to overcome - to say that a child being raised by loving parents, birth or otherwise, isn't an overall "lucky" vs's all the other possible outcomes is nuts.  Yes there are added difficulties, but honestly in this world I think most of us are very very lucky if we are safe, loved, and cared for.[/quote]

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