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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The underlying problem is not having any pride in ones health and body. I would be turned off my a thin partner that ate junk food and layed on the couch all day too. [/quote]

Oh, BS.  I gained weight after my pregnancies and was in the process of taking it off.... then a doctor prescribed me a BP medicine which also happened to make me insulin resistant.  Next thing I knew I was gaining weight even though nothing had changed about my diet.  I went into the doctor and asked if the weight gain could possibly be related to the medication and the doctor said "No."  I needed to stop eating all that fast food and try a liquid diet.  I wasn't even eating fast food!

Years later I saw that the medicine prescribed to me DID in fact lead to insulin resistance which leads to....TaDa!...weight gain!

Blaming me for something that was beyond my control would have been abusive.  Luckily, my spouse is a better person than that.  [/quote]

Most people who gain weight do not have medical issues. Being upset about weight gain is as legit as being upset that a partner has stopped showering or brushing their teeth.[/quote]
And even most medical issues (like PP on BP meds) would not cause weight gain if the person simply makes the correct lifestyle adjustments (90% of that being diet, 10% exercise). To say it's "beyond my control" is just a blame shifting excuse.[/quote]

If my doctor had told me to try Keto at the time I would have done it.  But, that information wasn't available at the time.  I was told to stop eating fast food and try a liquid diet which wouldn't have done a thing for the side effects of the medication that she prescribed to me.  Eat brown rice, try whole grain bread and yada yada - none of which would have helped me.

I didn't go into that doctor's office looking for excuses or trying to explain away why I was gaining weight.  I went there for answers and had a very strong suspicion that the medication had something to do with it and I was told it did not.  I wanted to lose the weight but nothing I knew how to do was helping which I had never experienced before.  Years later, I found out that I was right and the doctor was wrong.  It felt sort of validating tbh.

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