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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Were you paying her?[/quote]

Op. No she didn't want me to pay her! My son was only with her for 4 hour's yesterday. I texted her in the evening to confirm things were ok and she did not respond. I also sent her a Facebook message this morning. She is active on Facebook. [b]I told her I would really like to pay an in home daycare rate but she said no.[/b] I thought I would buy her gift cards and things like that to show my appreciation. I am trying not to freak out but I have work on Friday. I need reliable childcare. My friend was so excited to do this. [/quote]

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[quote]Kind of. I don't know her well. We both didn't think this through. [b]I offered her the same rate as the daycare center.[/b] In my area it's $260 per week for full-time care. This is at a daycare center inside my husband's office. Anyway I am leaving dcum for now. I have to get back to work. Thanks for all your help! [/quote]

OP, were you just misspoken earlier, then?[/quote]

Op here. I am new to daycare. I didn't realize there's a difference in price. I thought maybe she wanted me to pay her hourly. Anyway we're going with the center. I am so glad this is over now. [/quote]

Why would you pay her the rate as a center? You're crazy. [/quote]

I don't actually think OP offered to pay a center rate. I think OP low-balled (from the friend's perspective, not in an objective sense), and the friend wanted more. Definitely wanted more after the first day, started backing out, and [b]then yesterday explained she wanted daycare center rate. Which is crazy, but I think it's the part left out that makes sense of the story[/b].

The friend will soon enough be educated by the free market. OP's child has a secure spot in her husband's workplace daycare. If I were OP, I would let the natural consequences fall out where they may. It isn't necessarily her job to explain reasonable rates to the friend, and maybe it's time for a little distance, anyway. I have a feeling OP is going to be too busy to drive the friend around much, unfortunately, and OP -- that's fine.[/quote]

That would actually be a really good price for a 1:2 nanny share, but it also sounds like the friend was just going to be a babysitter (tv, no playground, no way to get to a playground). OP, you're going to be much happier with the center. I would probably also write this friend off.[/quote]

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