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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Were you paying her?[/quote]

Op. No she didn't want me to pay her! My son was only with her for 4 hour's yesterday. I texted her in the evening to confirm things were ok and she did not respond. I also sent her a Facebook message this morning. She is active on Facebook. [b]I told her I would really like to pay an in home daycare rate but she said no.[/b] I thought I would buy her gift cards and things like that to show my appreciation. I am trying not to freak out but I have work on Friday. I need reliable childcare. My friend was so excited to do this. [/quote]

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[quote]Kind of. I don't know her well. We both didn't think this through. [b]I offered her the same rate as the daycare center.[/b] In my area it's $260 per week for full-time care. This is at a daycare center inside my husband's office. Anyway I am leaving dcum for now. I have to get back to work. Thanks for all your help! [/quote]

OP, were you just misspoken earlier, then?[/quote]

Op here. I am new to daycare. I didn't realize there's a difference in price. I thought maybe she wanted me to pay her hourly. Anyway we're going with the center. I am so glad this is over now. [/quote]

Why would you pay her the rate as a center? You're crazy. [/quote]

I don't actually think OP offered to pay a center rate. I think OP low-balled (from the friend's perspective, not in an objective sense), and the friend wanted more. Definitely wanted more after the first day, started backing out, and then yesterday explained she wanted daycare center rate. Which is crazy, but I think it's the part left out that makes sense of the story.

The friend will soon enough be educated by the free market. OP's child has a secure spot in her husband's workplace daycare. If I were OP, I would let the natural consequences fall out where they may. It isn't necessarily her job to explain reasonable rates to the friend, and maybe it's time for a little distance, anyway. I have a feeling OP is going to be too busy to drive the friend around much, unfortunately, and OP -- that's fine.[/quote]

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