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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am having a hard time coming to terms with 50/50 custody for my 3 kids. I have always been the primary parent, handling most of the household and child rearing logistics. I work full time from home so I do the morning routine, pick up from school when someone is sick, take care of medical appointments, run carpools, do the shopping, volunteer at school, etc. A few years ago I asked my spouse to pick up some of these things and he picked up a few things but still left most to me. It was a source of tension in our relationship that not only did I do most of the domestic work but I also earned most of the income.

Now that we’re divorcing he says he wants 50% custody and that he will be available for things like picking up from school if someone is sick. He says he will make and keep medical appointments. He says he’ll adjust his work hours to go in later so he can make breakfast and pack lunches. He says he’ll leave work early to run carpool. He’s committed to buying or renting a house in our direct neighborhood so that we can share a nanny (the one we have right now).  Honestly, I have no idea how he will do this- I think that he will be very surprised by how much goes into the mental gymnastics of raising kids. But, I give him props for trying. This is more than I expected from him. He’s a good dad. My intention was never to keep him away from his kids or the kids away from him... only to ensure that the kids have a stable, consistent home life, especially during the school week.

My brain is saying this might work. I told him will keep track of all the heavy lifting items and if it is falling more to me then we go back for a modification. He agreed. But my heart is saying no. These are my babies that I’ve always given everything to and I need to keep doing that. How do I get there? How do I get to okay?[/quote]
How old are your three children?
How exactly is he proposing the 50/50 would work out?[/quote]

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