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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will be in the minority. When our kids where in middle school, it was common to have some kids to stay for the after party sleepover. Nobody kept it a secret. It wasn't a big deal. It was, typically, two to five who would stay after a bigger party. Sleepovers were too common (at least once a week) to be considered something special.[/quote]

OP is not talking about Javing 30 kids come to a party and then having a sleepover with 3 girls.

She’s talking about inviting 11 girls to a party and HALF get to stay for the sleepover and half don’t. This is not a case of a best friend staying after the party. This is splitting the party in half based on who is a real friend and a pity friend. Most people would rather not be invited .[/quote]
I will reiterate. It happened a lot and it was not a big deal. It's not a pity friend,  it's a friend, aka a person to hang out with.[/quote]

DP  Look the op's dd thinks she is doing the B list girls a favor by merely inviting them to part of the party.  She is not.  Just because something happened " a lot" doesn't make it right.  My dd was invited and we had no idea it was also a sleep over party which she was not invited too.  Did she get over it?  Yes, but, then we knew this girl wasn't a friend.  She wanted more gifts or thought she was doing my dd a big favor.

We are not saying people can't handle not being invited but, we are saying that you can't have two different parties and it is mean and unfair.  If I had a friend who only invited me for appetizers and made me leave before the fun dinner party I would not feel honored that at least they included me.  I would feel insulted and wish they hadn't invited me at all.  Why pretend?  These b girls are mere acquaintances.[/quote]

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