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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you are understandably upset...and I think this absolutely needs a resolution beyond your DD just acting like it didn't happen. But you are getting extreme advice in both directions.

I would approach the coach and tell them exactly what happened in a factual way. I would then tell them that it is impacting your DD's desire to remain on the team. Any decent HS coach should understand that building up teamwork is way more valuable than supporting the two "stars" to make everyone else feel "less than". It's also a terrible way to run a winning team.

To me, an ideal resolution would be the coach explaining exactly what was wrong to the pranksters and their providing a genuine apology to your DD. Coach should also remain vigilant that this kind of exclusionary behavior not happen again. Kicking the pranksters off the team doesn't teach them anything, and they are likely to bully again. In your DD's shoes, I wouldn't want to be the cause of breaking up the team...unless the pranksters refuse to recognize what they did wrong and continue to create a toxic team environment.

If the coach doesn't take your concerns seriously, then I would escalate further in the school and/or apporach the parents.[/quote]

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