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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel for you op. People act like what until you pay off student loans to have kids. Infertility is real. In my office of women lawyers, every single one of them over 35 is having trouble. We are super close so I know they’ve been trying and the troubles they’ve had. I went to a top 25 law school with partial scholarships and then into government and Dh went into non-profit (no loans for him). We are from the south so we started trying for a child at 26. Infertility. Didn’t see that one coming. Luckily, we didn’t wait until mid to late thirties so we had plenty of time to try everything we could before resorting to IVF. Then I went into private practice to try to pay off my loan faster. Worst mistake of my life. I won’t go into all the horrors of my law firm but if I could do it all over again, I would not have gone into private practice. All your problems are not magically solved if you go into private practice that’s for sure. Good luck. [/quote]
True, but then you have to live with a lot of debt. You have to pick and choose what you can live with.  For most of us, you can't have your cake and eat it too.

I had my first at 35 and second at 38, so it's not like I don't know about waiting to have kids.  And I'm not a lawyer.[/quote]

And I never said you could have it all. It’s just people willy nilly push waiting to have kids and with their kind of debt it may not be so easy.
Even though the DC area doesn’t believe it, fertility is on a finite timeline! She’s getting hounded for having kids and not waiting which is crazy to me.[/quote]

Plenty of people have kids in modest apartments, condos and town homes. Do you get it?[/quote]

People don't go to law school to live in modest apartments. Do you get it.[/quote]

Np. But in this case, they should! [/quote]

Then all that sacrifice, had work is all for nothing.

At the end of the day, there has to be some point, no?
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You know what? Sure. Live in a prime location now; you deserve it. Lease that fancy car now; you deserve it!

Later...be saddled with debt for life, die destitute, and leave your children with nothing but resentment and the burden of your care. Leave this world in debt and nothing to show for your work. You deserve it. [/quote]

You sound really angry. Why does someone else enjoying life irritate you so?

Perhaps you were once in the same boat as op and followed your own advice? It would make me miserable too  :cry: [/quote]

NP. I wonder the financial status of someone that makes these kinds of statements. [/quote]

HHI of 1.9 million. It wasn't always this high, I'm sure you bitter Betty would have told me to live in a townhouse in SEDC.[/quote]

Well, that explains it. Of course you can afford to live wherever you want.  OP, who makes a little more than 10% of what you make, can not. Do you not understand that? [/quote]

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