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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP you're not reading OP's post  very well.  She took a less demanding job so she could pick up more on the home front.  I'm really surprised everyone is dogging on OP.  I think she went out of her way to say she wants her DH to be happy but is feeling betrayed.  Is that really so unusual?  Maybe everyone has their back up because OP used the word "bargain."  She meant "compromise."  Too many posters talking about OP needing to compromise based on what DH wants.  What about DH compromising based on what OP wants?  That should be part of a healthy marriage too.[/quote]
Except marriage isn’t about one compromise and done. Things change. He has a young child and one on the way. He wants to enjoy family life. And OP thinks he’s going back on their bargain/compromise and doesn’t want to live on less. I completely understand why many PPs are saying she needs to compromise again and if the money means that much, she should get back in the rat race.[/quote]

The problem is that she can’t,  what was possible for her career wise when they made the bargain is no longer.  And frankly [b]I think op regrets giving her big career up in favor of someone who decided they didn’t really want the big career late enough that there was no turning back for her.[/b] The money is secondary.[/quote]

I'm a PP but not this PP. Yes, of course she does, but that was her decision. She can regret it all she wants but it's her fault.[/quote]

DP. Maybe she does regret it, but her regrets shouldn't mean he is obligated to work a highly stressful 70 hrs/week job when there is a 40 hr/week job with a reasonable salary alternative.[/quote]

I absolutely agree with you. [/quote]

No one,including op, is suggesting he is obligated to stay at his job.[/quote]

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