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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am an introvert and clam up when I cannot get a word in edgewise or when someone starts talking over me or changes the conversation while I am trying to speak.

I recently stopped hanging out with some people because the conversations border on small talk.  I am not good at small talk and prefer real and meaningful dialogue with people.  I'm not saying small talk is bad, but I'm no good at it.

If like you and you are interesting, we can talk for hours.
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But don’t you see that you also have to expend some energy and make an investment in the conversation to make it interesting? I appreciate the frank response, but this is my issue. “If I like you and you are interesting...” well you have to be interesting too!  It can’t just be me dropping a bunch of topics and hoping you’ll find one interesting.  And sometimes it takes a little work and small talk.  No one likes small talk. Of course we all like deep and interesting conversations. But to have this, you have to have opinions and observations, take small risks, tell something personal about yourself.  [/quote]

To me interesting conversation is not gossip.  It’s deeper than that.  I had to sit at a table of “friends” who would ask me questions only to interrupt me or talk over me when I answered.  They liked to talk about going out, who did what, their favorite drink, nothing which I could relate to.  I am no longer friends with them.  We all used to be close and it was that meal I realized I have nothing in common with them anymore and really didn’t want to contribute to a conversation I was not interested in.  Frankly, I was bored and felt out of place.[/quote]

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