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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi OP,

Listen, my own MIL died and my FIL married another woman a couple years later. They have been married for 3 years and while we all think she’s a nice lady and we happily include her in all family functions, let’s be real here:

She’s someone my husband met in his 30’s and we have both spent less than 50 days total with this person. If FIL were to die tomorrow we would probably never spend any time with her after the funeral. Not because we hate her, but because there’s no shared history, no common bond. It’s laughable to suggest that we would feel responsible for caring for her in old age the same way we would for FIL.

I would bet my house that your own children feel the same way towards your girlfriend. You sound really delusional. [/quote]

This is the situation with my dad too and absolutely.  My brother and I and our spouses like her well enough, mostly because she made my dad happy and of course we didn't want him to be lonely in his later years.  But yes, we didn't know her until we were in our 30s -- so out of the house and grown.  We never lived together.

Marriage complicates things, especially when both partners bring adult children to the marriage.  Dad and his wife have been having marital problems lately and of course our loyalties lie with dad.  It's also a fight about money so when money is involved everyone gets weird.  Best just not to go there.[/quote]

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