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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can someone give a good example of what the wife ought to say?  Assuming that she likes the chair and isn’t interested in doing any additional shopping, what is a reasonable response to her DH saying that he doesn’t like the chair and wants to shop together?  [/quote]

"I honestly thought you would like it. Anyway, I am tired of searching, and I am going to buy it. I told you I was searching earlier, and you waited this long for your input. You should let me know your preference earlier next time."
"Stop whining and do it yourself next time or offer suggestions earlier rather than criticize all the effort I have put in."

I have used these, but it is easy for me to say these because my husband knows exactly what I am talking about.

Sometimes, if the issue/purchase is more important to him than it is to me I indulge his complaints and try to figure out what he wants.

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I feel like I can relate to this dynamic.  I'm a researcher by nature.  By the time I pick something out, I've probably spent a really long time looking at all the alternatives and selected that one particular option for a laundry list of good reasons.  I also get really mad when dh steps in at the last minute and says he doesn't like something.  It's usually done in a way that is essentially dismissive.  If he said something thoughtful, like "I'm okay with the color but I don't think it's comfortable", that I can work with. It's when he says out of hand he doesn't like it and wants to look more that I could easily see myself reacting like op's wife.   I'm done looking, if he wants to look more, he can, but I'm done.   I suspect that may be some of what's happening with the op, and I think in op's shoes I would keep the driving issue seperate from that.  [/quote]

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