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[quote=Anonymous][quote]She is the bio mother. First wife.

I've been in a number of long-term relationships and have not run into this particular problem. I'm happy with my marriage, but frustrated that my wife leaves me with little room to have a different opinion. If our opinions differ, my wife seems to take it as an insult.

I enjoy discussions and debates and differences of opinion -- it makes life more interesting, and can make a relationship more fun. But my wife would prefer, I think, that she and I move in complete unison. This simply isn't possible. There are no two human beings who so precisely align[/quote].

OP - what kind of debate and discussion would you have liked to see about the driving?  I think you're hell bent on not being wrong.  Even when you acquiesce, you say "I'll bite my tongue more" instead of realizing you're wrong.  but seriously, play out how you think your driving example would have been a good "discussion with a difference of opinion" as you think these should have been.

I really think here's the bottom line.  You "not letting" her drive is you treating her like a child and its insulting.  How about - "you're still making big driving mistakes.  I'm not comfortable with you driving our kids.  Can we talk about it?"  For all you know, she could have responded with "I'm nervous about that too. what do you suggest"  Or "I'm nervous about that too - I've been practicing on my own and I think I'm almost ready"

But YOU are the one that wasn't open to a discussion of different opinions.  YOU decided and informed her of your decision.

The furniture thing?  like so many on here have said, when one person spends hours and hours looking and shows their partner - it's frustrating when the partner dismisses it.  It's happened to all of us and I, too, have told my husband - Then you shop around and present ME with your options and I'll either approve or deny them.  And I am FAR from thin-skinned.  So, I don't think that's a good example of being thin skinned.[/quote]

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