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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are making time for yourself by staying up till 1 am and then functioning the next day. [b]If he wants more "alone time" he needs to work it into his schedule.[/b] I have always needed about 2 hours at night after the kids go to bed, and Ive been a stay at home mom and a full time working single parent. You have to make "you" time. If its at night or early am. Your have a small child, the amount of sleep you get is not ideal for years [/quote]

But the OP makes this impossible because she makes sure the son is awake during all of her DH's awake time at home.  Unlike OP, her DH does not have the luxury of being able to sleep in until 8 or later in the morning. He has a job he needs to get to.  So yea, it's all fun that OP stays up until 1am -- but she still gets 7 hours or more sleep a night.  If her DH stayed up until then, he'd only get 5.5 hours a night -- which is not enough to be a good lawyer.

[b]Her DH has a totally reasonable request:  [b]That when he get home at 8pm, his DS will be in bed [/b]so DH can have 1.5 hours to himself before starting the grind again. [/b] This is totally reasonable, and is the schedule that happens in the vast majority of homes where one spouse works long hours. Very few people want to get up at 6:30am, work a 12 hour day, and then come home to have to play with a four year old. That doesn't mean they don't love their kid. [/quote]

This is a horrible sentiment.

You think his son should go all week without seeing dad so dad can have more "me" time.

How selfish.

How immature.

How unworthy of being a parent.

If he wants more "me" time he needs to change his work hours to hours that make being a parent possible.

He (and anyone who thinks the bolded part is reasonable) should not have chosen to become a parent if me time is more important than seeing your kid.[/quote]

NP.  A four year old should be asleep by 8 pm because that's a reasonable bedtime for that age.  The fact that this child is sleeping in so late shows why his current schedule is an issue - preschools start almost universally by 8:30 am so he might as well adjust to that reality now.  [/quote]

8:00-9:00 is a reasonable bedtime for a 4 year old.[/quote]

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