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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not the signing up for camp and making doctor's appointments, it is the responsibility to remember that those type of things need to be done.

Not the OP, but I don't always want to be the one assigning those tasks, sometimes I would rather have them assigned to me. Besides work (FT), I have to juggle all that stuff in my head.

Sometimes I want to be the one who is told where and when to show up. Too much to ask, maybe? [/quote]
That isn't 'mental labor'.  Unless you are seriously handicapped, as an adult you have to notice that things need to be done and do them. What you call "Mental Labor" appears to be what was formerly known as "Nagging". Your husband would likely appreciate it if you stopped the "Mental Labor" altogether.  I expect that is why he doesn't tell you what to do and where to be, you know "do unto others ... " [/quote]

Fine, it is so easy? Then let him do it. But it doesn't happen. I'm guessing you are a SAHM. [/quote]
If you let him do it, what he thinks needs to be done, will be done by him and you will not have to 'mentally labor' over it. You are then free to notice other stuff that needs to be done, and do it. Why would you think that I was a SAHM? [/quote]

Dude.  It does NOT work that way with these guys.  I have waited literally SIX YEARS for my DH to open a 529 for our son, and he has not done so.  It's getting to late to wait, so I have to do it.  I'm about to do our car registration (last day) because despite leaving it out for him on the table for TWO WEEKS he did nothing.  I could go on and on with the millions of examples of dropped balls.  Only when it's something that truly has no consequences for our child or our finances do I leave it up to him.  Managing emergencies caused by him is MORE WORK for me.  [/quote]

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