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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One of my childhood best friends got pregnant at 14 and had her baby just a month after turning 15.  My parents had forbidden me from hanging out with her halfway through 6th grade when she became a "bad kid" in their eyes (got caught smoking and then got caught stealing from Icing in the mall).  We still spoke but only at school and our friendship suffered because of this.  She still invited me to her baby shower and I got her a gift on my own, but my parents wouldn't let me go.  They thought it was appalling that her parents were carrying on as if it was a completely normal situation, throwing the showers, having a big 15th birthday party, the dad remodeling the basement to make an apartment for her and the baby's father to live in, etc.  She switched to homeschool after the baby was born and we pretty much lost touch for years.  She contacted me on Facebook about 3 years ago because it turned out we had another mutual friend through our kid's soccer team and FB suggested me as a friend.  The baby she had in HS is turning 21 this year.  That's crazy since we're both turning 36 this year.  She has a 10 year old and a 6 year old now and is married (not to the HS baby daddy).  It's funny because even though so much time has passed, we both still remember each others childhood secrets.  I really wish my parents hadn't made me stop being her friend all those years ago.        [/quote]

Why the hostility from your parents?

Once the baby was born it should have been all about moving forward and not looking back.[/quote]

Im a parent and I would never let my kid maintain a close relationship with a pregnant 14 year old. Or attend a shower.  This is not normal or acceptable behavior.   Its proven that more normalized this becomes the more likely girls are to get pregnant and think its cool. Its not. [/quote]

Yes, it's best just to shame and isolate the child. That will certainly ensure a great future for her and her baby. /s[/quote]

NP here. Honestly, I wouldn't care what happens with the teen mom and baby. My interest would be in protecting my child. Who would want their kid to be around someone who makes such bad decisions? Clearly, the teen mom would potentially be a bad influence on my child (all teens are affected by what their peers do).

As my father used to say, you lay down with dogs, you wake up with fleas.

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+10000. The teen mom's social life or mental stability or how well her kid does/doesn't turn out is her and her parents problem, not mine. I would definitely not allow my kid to socialize with a teen mom under age 18 -- talking at school, fine I can't stop that. But baby showers and awwing over cute baby gifts -- no way in hell.[/quote]

sounds like a great recipe to ensure your first few grandkids are aborted![/quote]

I'm perfectly fine with that if grandkids are being conceived before a college degree is in hand. Honestly if my kid were to get pregnant at 15 or 17 or whatever, there would be none of this -- OMG we support you and love you and the baby -- nonsense. I'd be marching her to her abortion appointment. If she refused, well good luck raising a baby on the streets bc I'm not supporting you and the baby in my home.[/quote]

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