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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, the more urgent question is why are you even considering leaving your DH?  I would ask you to please approach your DH to let him know how you feel, then take some time after your children are gone to reconnect and to work (with a therapist's help) on the issues affecting your happiness.  You may find that life without children at home allows your marriage the fresh start you desire.  Marriages should not be so readily discarded. [/quote]

because I want to turn his life upside down. That's what he deserves.[/quote]

Okay, I amend my previous statement.  You are a childish, spiteful idiot.

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He treats her poorly. He is rude to her - “wife math” my husband tried that one once and I told him where to shove it.

Why should she stay with such a huge asshole?[/quote]

DP.

Many of us are not saying she should stay. We're saying that if she leaves she needs to do so like an adult who takes stock of the financial realities and the potential relationship issues with her children. Pointing out those things is not the same as saying, stay.

But OP is so focused on trying to hurt her husband that she would accept aging into poverty and damaging her relationships with her adult children as acceptable prices to pay in order to "turn his life upside down." She needs therapy -- not to convince her to stay but to help her get into the real world re: how to leave. But she sounds as if she would not commit to it or accept anything a therapist said that didn't agree with the "I'll get even and I'll reset the clock to 22 again" fantasy. It's sad now , but it'll be sadder when she's estranged from her kuds and staring down a retirement she can't afford.
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