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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]If she makes 20% of the income, it's a hobby. [/b]She has the luxury of doing what she loves because she doesn't have the burden and stress of absolutely having to supporting a family on the income. And she's been at it for three years -- that's plenty of time to get into the swing of things and re-establish an equitable work/life balance.

Work is more fun for her than boring old husband and kids. She's being selfish. And don't pretend like her being SAHM while he was working outside of the house was something she altruistically did solely for DH's benefit. He's making $500k per year. She obviously profits greatly from what she helped him achieve. [/quote]

I would agree if her 20% is $20k, or $50k, or sure, $70k.  But with DCUM salaries..... her 20% could be a freaking college education.  Nothing to turn your nose up at.

After staying home for 7 years it will take time for her to get up to a reasonable ratio of HHI.  That doesn't necessarily mean it's not worth the effort.

And as a woman, and a mother of daughters, I'd say it's important for the wife to have the ability to produce "only" $100k or what have you.  A man is not a plan.
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I’d say it’s more important any for both parents to be spending significant time with kids.  We are talking about whether she should be working, but why she spends zero quality time with her family.  What you are espousing is incredibly selfish.  If op’s wife  to focus all her time on her career, she should never have had kids.  That is a perfectly fine choice.  Too many dcum posters seem to have never wanted children and write post after post trying to justify that.  Ignoring your children is not feminism.[/quote]

Maybe she's following OP's model of throwing herself all-in for several years to establish herself and then cutting back on her hours to have more time with the family when she can also make half a million dollars working a 9-5 job. I would take you more seriously if you'd also told OP he should never have had kids because of the way he worked for the first seven years of their lives.[/quote]

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