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I am definitely misunderstood on here. I’m not Peter Pan or whatever that means. I have a career and interests, but I understand that people will immediately attack you if you don’t want kids as some sort of lost individual. I remember when I told my mom that I don’t want kids and she questioned why I got married. Fair point. But not all of us kid free people want to screw around all day and do nothing with our lives.

I study more languages, I help refugees settle in the states, i attend lectures and philosophical discussions. And it’s not like I don’t spend frivolously. I love to travel all over, and I would love a companion that enjoys that as well. Traveling by yourself isn’t that easy sometimes.

I understand that finding a person that doesn’t want kids or doesn’t already have them in my age group is a tough sell, but I certainly have felt that there is an expectation of more money when you’re 35 and single.

Also, I don’t own because I moved to DC 3 years ago and I am not sure whether I’ll be staying and because it’s so damn expensive. With condo fees, interest, and taxes, you need it to be a longer term plan to stay. [/quote]

OP, you aren't misunderstood.  You just disagree with how people assess you.  You came to the site designed for parents, yes with many different sections, but parents nevertheless.  In this environment, a man who does not want children is unattractive.  And I believe you are finding out that this is in fact the case in real life - that most women who look for LTR in your age bracket include children in the picture of life they want to achieve.  Your decision not to procreate makes you unattractive to them.  This is not something you can argue with.

You can always target women in the 40+ bracket who may have wanted children earlier but by now life hasn't worked out that way, and children aren't possible anymore.  That type of woman may have wanted children very much but ended up not having them for whatever reason, and is now making peace with the reality that she won't.  That type of woman may be amenable to looking at the bright side of not having children - more freedom, more money, more spontaneity, etc.  Women in their thirties mostly do want to have children so they will not find you attractive for that reason.  Make peace with this. [/quote]

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