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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sometimes being overwhelmed by toddler = lack of socializing. Does your wife have mom friends/much social interaction during the day? Maybe what she needs is not more alone time, and when you get home, that's why she doesn't want to leave the kid with you, because she wants to socialize with you, as her only outlet? [/quote]

Op here. My wife is super social. She has tons friends and activities. They swim, go to museums, the zoo, farms, friends houses, library story time and we have a membership to an indoor playground. [/quote]

Have you ever been on a toddler playdate? They're typically not social outings for the adults, you get to chat a little bit but your conversation is constantly being interrupted by your child and their needs. Playdates don't really become relaxing social time for the moms until the kids are old enough to play relatively unsupervised.[/quote]

This is BS. Toddler playdates are not exactly like going to a spa, but they are pretty low key and if you enjoy socializing, are perfectly pleasant to pass the time.  [/quote]

Says someone who has never been on a toddler playdate. [/quote]

Im the PP who called BS above.  yes, i've been on many toddler playdates.  They are very much social outings for the adults. In fact, it's the only reason they exist -- because toddlers sure as shit don't get anything from them (since toddlers just parallel play and ignore each other for much of the play date).  I'm not saying they are *good* social outings. But they beat sitting at home by yourself going crazy. That's why people organize them.  Your kids play, you have to hover the whole time, but while you're doing it you chat with the other moms.  Not relaxing per se, but if a sahm finds going to a toddler playdate incredibly stressful, this is a sign that you should not be staying home with your kid.

Also, not only am i the person who called BS above, i'm also a PP who noted they have a special needs kid. My son is severely adhd, to the point where his hyperactivity and inappropriate social interactions had us putting him on meds at FOUR years old.  When people call their kids "handfuls", me and his developmental pediatrician laugh. Even then, with a kid like that, i didn't find small toddler playdates of 2-4 kids particularly stressful, and in fact, enjoyed them as a nice break from the otherwise monotonous existence of staying home.  [/quote]

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