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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, it sounds like you do want kids, you are just afraid if losing meaning as a professional. Let me tell you that it's totally possible to outspurce a lot of childcare know the very early years. You just need an amazingly living nanny and husband. Once they're a bit older (4+), it gets so much easier. Also, many men wouldn't mind bring the primary caregiver. My husband is one of them. Don't sell yourself short because you've been told you should only have one or the other. Kids are resilient and adaptable and you sound like a very mature, responsible person. Your age is perfect. I met my husband at 32 and had a kid at 36. I'm now 38 and we're about to have another. I also have an intense job. Not quite 80 hours (more like 60) but enough that I only spend 1.5 hours per day with my kid during the week and 6-7 per day on the weekends. It replaced my time seeing girlfriends one one one for the most part (now we bring the kids). But it is doable and very rewarding. You don't have to stop being you to have kids. Just thought you may want to hear another perspective. (Ignore the haters who are likely to follow up in this post... My kid and family and career are all doing great.)[/quote]

Op here. I really don’t know if I do want kids. I have a lot of nieces and nephews. I love the bond my sinsolings have with them, but I also see how hard it is to raise children. I don’t know if thats is for me. Right now I am focused on getting my career finished. I am not a workaholic as some have described me. When you’re in residency, you don’t chose what hours and how many hours you work. I chose this profession because I truly love helping people. It’s my way of helping give back, and feel like I’ve made some contribution to make seociety better.

If I did chose to have child, it would be in fellowship or post fellowship. I am also not opposed to adoption. I do know I do not want a child unless I have a solid marriage. I have seen too many issues in my family by having children too young, some out of wedlock, and some financially and emotionally not ready. I don’t want to bring a child into this world unless I can raise them in a comfortable home with two loving parents. 
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